Iggy Pop, May 31 1971, outside St. Mark’s Place, the East Village, NYC.
The Victoria & Albert Museum
What’s a “half-mourning” dress? Mourning in the front, party in the back?
Half-Mourning was the third stage of mourning for a widow. She would be expected to mourn her husband for at least two years, the stages being Full Mourning, Second Mourning and Half-Mourning. The different stages regulated what they would be wearing, with Full Mourning being all black and with no ornamentation, including the wodow’s veil, and the stages after that introducing some jewellery and modest ornamentation. When in Half-Mourning you would gradually include fabrics in other colors and sort of ease your way out of mourning.
Wow, I am happy you made that joke so I could interpert it as a serious question and have an excuse to ramble on about clothing customs of the past, I am a historical fashion nerd.
That’s very informative, but I’m going to stick with my original head canon:
I love both the informed fashion history and the hilariously off-the-wall halves of this post.
The sexy version is not that big a flight of fancy as you may imagine. Victorian and Edwardian erotica, romance fiction, and even comics were flush with the idealized sexy widow. She stayed in line with virtues of the perfect Edwardian woman, modest, maternal, devoted wife, and virgin till marriage BUT she had the forbidden sexuality of having already laid with a man and had an air of experience about her as well as usually having far more cash and property then her virgin first wife counterpart. The widow’s weeds themselves took on an almost fetish-like following that we associate with say, retro nurses uniforms. Full mourning required that women be left alone, unspoken too and untouched by everyone except for those closest to her, making her a forbidden fruit. Women at the time worried about their white petticoats poking out of dresses so for the first time in western history black underwear came into fashion first for widows and slowly they became a bit of an erotic novelty (that we still see a major influence of today). Half mourning was just as exciting because not only were women wearing purples, navy, wine, and greys as well as jewelry, but they were once again members of society while still not being remarried. Men at the theater would gawk and stare and single woman, so close to being someone who would be a wife again so soon. This time period also gave us one of underwear’s sexiest novelties, the merry widow corset, which is still bought today.
Well, I’m going to assume that your dad falls under the category of “White Jews” since you don’t otherwise identify as a PoC.
You are ethnically Jewish, but not halachically Jewish according to most of the more observant movements. But since you are non-practicing I don’t know how important halacha is to you. The question of patrinlineal Jews is an unfortunate minefield right now, which makes me pretty sad.
Assuming you don’t live in a country where all Jews are coded as non-White, as far as the White/PoC binary is concerned you, my friend, are in a limbo between the two. A frustrating, confusing limbo. Essentially you are not fully white, but you are not PoC. Some White Jews describe it as “conditional White privilege” or “white passing privilege.” Essentially, you have the ability to blend in in most circumstances. You will not be visibly “othered” in most circumstances. So, as long as no one knows you are Jewish, you will be able to partake in White Privilege… so long as you fully assimilate into Whiteness, don’t admit that you’re Jewish, and don’t let anyone find out your Jewish. The second that happens the rules can change.
For example, the KKK hates you. Neo-Nazis hate you. They don’t consider you to be White. They consider you to be the greatest enemy of whiteness possible. White supremacists consider you public enemy number one.
The other down side is that, because you pass as white, many people on the left will consider any anti-semitism you experience to be nullified by your “White Privilege.” Or worse, “Jewish Privilege,” which is not a thing anywhere but Israel. Speaking of which, you have the right to move there if you want because of the Law of Return. Now you will get the privilege of being asked to apologize for the actions of Israel to get access to certain leftist spaces and will be accused or suspected of being an evil Zionist no matter how you feel about Israel.
So yeah. Your life just got more complicated. My apologies.
Cruella told me that “my vest was absolutely hideous but at least I’m designing something!”
Come see KAIE/BABI of Triple Fortune/Brilliant Kingdom, Aurelio Voltaire, Jillian Venters of Gothic Charm School, G.D. Falksen, Kathryn Paterwic of Redfield Designs, Fumiko Kawamura of Enchantlic Enchantilly, Platform One, Zoh Raven of Morrigan NYC, and Psyche Corporation at RuffleCon 2014!
October 4th and 5th, 2014 at the Omni Hotel in New Haven, CT
Tickets available at the door starting Saturday and Sunday morning at 8:00am EST! We can’t wait to see you there!
Don’t hold your breath.
When “good” cops turn in bad cops, they suffer a lot of consequences, which is why we rarely see “good” cops turn in other officers.
- They are assigned shitty shifts.
- They are reassigned to areas far from home.
- They are shut out. Don’t hear about meetings, and other info needed to do the job.
- Back-up is “tied up” and cannot make it to the scene to assist them. When you are chasing down an armed felon, no one shows.
- Their things start disappearing.
- They are lied on and other officers file bogus complaints against them.
- They suddenly face disciplinary write-ups where none existed before and for things other officers do routinely, without consequence.
In short, their careers are pretty much shit. Many of them are forced out. It comes down to a matter of self-sacrifice and who is willing to do it.